Your crush might put a lampshade on her head and call it innocent fun. It's unfair to assume that she feels that way without asking her. She's likely openly telling her family that it's okay he's not Mormon because she's going to get him baptized. Much good luck, and keep us in the loop. Simply tell him that you feel like your relationship is stagnating, and you'd like to talk about where it is going. At the end of the second date I knew I needed him in my life. This comment has been removed by the author. And no one has the right to judge you for your decision.
Pretty alarming how unsophisticated so many presumably well-educated people's expectations are of marriage. Might be worth working through the missionary lessons and CES letter to see if they can agree at least to disagree. And I really agree that in any marriage no matter what the professions, each spouse wants to come to a welcoming and communicative environment, they don't want bottled up tense frustration. Several of the apostles have grown up in part member homes. This blog has been so helpful. Certainly there are such people in the church, but there are such people in any organization, and I would challenge you to remember that the members are also individuals with thoughts, feelings and the ability to rebel in their own ways. Please think that there is something worse: Sometimes I feel the worst wife, mother and daughter.